Some of the greatest love quotes of all time share with us how it feels to fall in love, and what it means when the love is still fresh. But, what about lasting love? What is love really like after marriage? Here are some quotes that explain what that kind of love feels like.
Insights From Elizabeth Gilbert’s Committed
Elizabeth Gilbert is known for her honesty, as well as the vibrant success of her book Eat, Pray, Love, which started with a divorce. When Liz wakes up one day and decides she’s no longer happy in her marriage, she has no other choice but to leave it. And through her divorce and her travels that followed, a new book was born when she met her current husband.
Now in a happy marriage, Elizabeth Gilbert shares the same amount of insight in her follow-up success, Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage. As she comes to terms with her own marriage, she offers many pieces of insight about what love is really like after marriage. Here are just a few of those that have been quoted and re-quoted.
“Marriage is those two thousand indistinguishable conversations, chatted over two thousand indistinguishable breakfasts, where intimacy turns like a slow wheel. How do you measure the worth of becoming that familiar to somebody—so utterly well known and so thoroughly ever-present that you become an almost invisible necessity, like air?”
“Marriage becomes hard work once you have poured the entirety of your life’s expectations for happiness into the hands of one mere person. Keeping that going is hard work.”
“Real, sane, mature love—the kind that pays the mortgage year after year and picks up the kids after school—is not based on infatuation but on affection and respect.”
“The act of quiet nighttime talking, illustrates for me more than anything else the curious alchemy of companionship.”
Famous Quotes From Other Authors
One of the most famous quotes on marriage, which was said by the American Journalist Mignon McLaughlin, reflects the requirement of dedication and devotion in order to make it a success: “A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”
“After marriage, a woman’s sight becomes so keen that she can see right through her husband without looking at him, and a man’s so dull that he can look right through his wife without seeing her,” said the American journalist, Helen Rowland.
Leo Tolstoy, the Russian writer and author of the famous book—and now film—Anna Karenina, points out what really counts: “What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are but how you deal with incompatibility.”
And finally, Jane Austen, the famous author of Pride and Prejudice, put it blatantly: “Marriage is indeed a maneuvering business.”
So marriage is tricky, and quotes surrounding marriage are much more honest and modest than those surrounding the act of falling in love. But when fleeting infatuation is replaced by strong, lasting love, however modest it may be, a marriage is often the cause.