If you have been around here for very long, you know I have teenagers — in fact — I have a 16 and a 19 year old. To top that off, my husband and I teach the youth at our church and we have for some time now, like around 3 years. Because of being around teenagers all the time, I listen to their stories — the ones where they share what they miss at home, and of all the things that parents fill their lives with that they necessarily don’t want or need.
Because of that, I have come up with a list of 10 things teenagers need from their parents and 10 things they don’t need.
10 Things Teenagers Need From Their Parents
- Unconditional Love
- YOUR time and not just your presence
- Your support of their career path
- Dream big dreams right along with them
- They need you to show them how true Christians act — help keep them accountable but in a loving way.
- They need you to teach them about God – don’t leave it up to the church
- They need you to investigate their social life. So many times teenagers think that they can be secretive on social media
- They need you to talk TO them and not AT them
- They need you to be understanding
- They need to know that YOU have got their back.
10 Things Teenagers Do NOT Need From Their Parents
- Hurtful Words
- Comparison among siblings
- Reminding them of all of their past mistakes and faults
- Unbelief when they share their heart with you
- Turning a blind eye to their sinful behaviors
Today — instead of giving your teenager a criticizing look, why not offer grace and mercy like our Lord Jesus and start building that relationship with your teenager.
Which item do you struggle with the most? Ask God to give you the strength to tap into that and allow it to minister to your teenager today.