For a lot of young adults in India and even a few neighboring countries, the only information about romance and marriages comes from Bollywood movies. In a way, Bollywood has redefined love and friendship for us.
Although, at times completely unrealistic, Bollywood brings with it a few precious lessons about love and marriages. The Indian film industry has been repeatedly accused of setting the bar too high or screening ridiculously cliché stories that do not match reality.
But once in a blue moon comes gems that leave us mesmerized. Let’s have a look:
#1 Marriage is never the end – it’s just the beginning
Remember how we used to think that once our favorite couples met in a union of marriage, things would be smooth sailing from there? Not true. And while some Bollywood movies might have given such an impression, some of them have been startlingly honest about the trials of marriage.
Bollywood movies teach us that marriage is not the end of the story. It’s just the beginning of a long journey. Marriage brings with it a set of new challenges as seen in a number of movies.
Your wedding is just a prologue for the next few thousand chapters you will write together.
#2 Love and Marriage Demand Sacrifices
Bollywood may take making sacrifices in the name of love or to save your marital relationship to a whole new and unrealistic level, but the message is there, and it’s crystal clear.
You have to give a little before you could enjoy the fruits of marriage. All marriages demand endless sacrifices and rigidity in a marital relationship often results in an unhappy marriage or divorce.
No marriage is without sacrifice, and it’s only when you give something up do you realize the actual worth of what you have. Bollywood has mastered drilling this sentiment into people.
Hindsight is a terrible thing, and realizing later that a few sacrifices on your part could have saved your marriage is a big regret to carry, especially if you’re not happy with the way things have ended between you and your spouse.
So learn from the movies.
#3 You Have to Know When to Walk Away
Sometimes marriages break and sometimes it’s a good thing. While marriage is a sacred relationship, it’s not always perfect. People get married to the wrong people for the wrong reason and such relationships hardly work.
If you are in such a marriage consider walking away, if that’s what you think will make everyone happy.
You have to walk away from something bad to find something good. This needs a lot of courage but if you look closely, you will find it in your heart.
#4 Loyalty is Black and White
There are no grey areas when it comes to reliability, and if Bollywood movies haven’t taught you that yet, they’ve taught you next to nothing.
Marriages demand loyalty from both the partners, and it’s not a cliché or an unrealistic expectation from your spouse, it’s just about good moral values.
#5 Marriage is a Two Way Road
Marriages are not without trials and tribulations. It doesn’t matter how much you’re in love, there will come a time when you two will fight and may even consider walking away from the relationship.
It is important to be strong during such times and control your emotions. While it’s important to know when to walk away from a bad marriage, it’s also important to stay.
Some experts even argue that fights and arguments can bring people closer and help love grow.
So learn from wherever you can. Watch movies, read books on couples, and talk to other couples so that you have the best marriage advice.