Have you ever said something and just minutes later, you wish you would have never said that?
I have been there all.too.often.
An area where I have really struggled in my marriage is learning that I do not have to have the last word. The last word will kill your marriage, it will put a strain on your marriage, and literally pull you and your husband apart.
So how do we get away from the last word?
The only thing I can tell you is the steps I take to keep from speaking when I should remain silent. This works for me for the most part, but then there are times my flesh wins out and I do wind up saying hurtful things or smart sounding remarks. I am human. I do err.
~Pray and ask God to help you tame your tongue. I cannot stress to you how important this is. I find when I don’t silently pray and ask God to either remind me to hush or to stay silent, that is when I wind up saying the thing I did not want to say.
~Pay attention to your husband’s mood. Is he grumpy or out of sorts? Then this would not be a good time to try and pick and argument with him so that you can have the last word.
~When you find yourself wanting to retaliate, the answer is simply don’t do it. Bite your tongue if you have to. Whatever it takes to keep from lashing out. Learn to control it.
~Don’t allow your voice to escalate in a disagreement. Be sure and keep your voice calm and low. Allowing it to escalate is what will cause you to wind up speaking when you know in your mind and heart you should remain quiet.
~Like your momma always said– if you don’t have anything nice to say–don’t say it.
Now like I said earlier, sometimes this is easier said than done, but if you start to practice it now, it does get much easier.
Make your marriage the best it can be by giving your best to your marriage.