For the longest time I have always been one to put my happiness aside for others. I wouldn't move to a new city because my mother didn't want me to. I would give up the last bite of Chinese to my kids because they asked. I would turn down a gift from my husband because I did not feel worthy.
Today, I am here to tell you that you cannot let other people dictate your happiness. If moving is what will make you happy, then do it. If accepting a gift from someone will make you happy, then do it.
Being happy is not something that I am familiar with. I have for too long let others dictate to me how I feel or what I need to do to be happy. I have never really taken the time to discover for myself exactly what makes me excited and full of joy.
I met a lady a few months ago that had invested her entire life in her family and kids, never really doing any of the things she loved. She was recently divorced, and her kids were grown, so as we sat and talked, I asked her that very same question — what do you like to do? She answered me with ” I don't really know”.
Ladies — we have GOT to stop putting everyone and everything else in front of our happiness. Yes — we have always been accustomed to thinking this is exactly how we are to be, but I am here today to tell you that we need to stop and start taking time for ourselves to do the things we enjoy.
One thing that I have learned is that I am in control of my happiness. I can choose to be happy or I can be bitter. I can allow someone to take away the things that would make me happy, or I can trust God, move out into the unknown and just be happy.
Today I encourage you to stop for about minutes today and make a list of things that make you happy.
What about you? Are you struggling with being happy? Maybe you need to take back your key!